we are of different religious backgrounds, my fiances parents want us to get married in the church they recognise, i want to get married in the place f worship i grew up in. what do i do?

Your going to find during the planning process that one thing it true...You can't please everybody! From bridesmaids, to in-laws, to friends and relatives...everybody's got an opinion. Learn to listen, but ultimately do what you and your future husband feel comfortable with...it's your day. You didn't mention his stance on this, so I assume he's neutral on the subject. Religious traditions can vary greatly as to the when and where a ceremony should be conducted. The best advice I can give is to ask yourself..."Why do I want it my church?" If it's becuase of the pastor/priest...a potential compromise would be having yours do the ceremony at your future in-laws church...or vice versa.

Your going to get to know your in-laws quite well over the next few years...start it out on the right foot. Ask them why they want it their church...then invite them to a service at yours, as well as volunteering to come to their's. Who know's? Maybe you'll love their place, or they'll love your place and that bump will be behind you.

Good luck...Remember...the 'devils' in the details...

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A church filled with family and friends.
I asked him what kind of a wedding he wished for,
He said one that would make me his wife.
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What if you found a neutral place that you and your groom love, and have a minister who will recognize both faiths in the ceremony? Incoorporate aspects from both faiths (different symbols and readings) and maybe as your vows if you can combine them to create one it might be nice and please everyone. It may sound like a lot of work but you'd be surprised the help minister's can be in doing this stuff. Just an idea!

Me and my f were having the same problem about where get married.
We both talked about where we wanted to have it and why.
He finaly came to me and told me that it didnt matter where we got married as long as after we were there that I would be Mrs Miller.
So just talk, and if that doesnt work, the puppy dog eyes work.

My f and I had a similar situation. I have a church that I go to and a majority of my family goes to. His family haven't really been going to church much but he was raised in a different religion. He isn't really comfortable in churches and really wanted to have it outside. I was worried about the weather part of an outside wedding.

we settled on having the wedding and the reception in the same place. That way it eliminates travel time between places and makes it easier on the guests. Everyone will already be seated at the tables for the reception when they come in for the wedding.

the place we are having ours also does all of the decorating and everything for a lot let than it would have cost us to have it in two separate locations. it's an alternative to consider.

Hi there. My fiance and I are of different religious backgrounds as well. We are getting married in the church I grew up attending. However, it is an option to have his minister attend as well and take part in the ceremony. That way both religions are represented.

My fiance and I are totally different when it comes to religion. He's katholic and I'm not a part of any church at all. He doesn't go to church much, so fortunately, he doesn't care where we get married, as long as we do. But I've seen this wedding where there were two ministers, each representing a different faith. I think it's a great idea for couples like you guys. Best of luck to you both!