I have a b/f since high shool that is getting married. She was my maid of honor and I also had a matron of honor in my wedding. She just got engaged 2 weeks ago. She told me she was having 5 bridesmaids, not telling me who or anything. Then, last WED she emailed me that she hadn't done anything about her bridesmaids after I had just asked how planning was going if she had started, etc... FRI an email gets sent out from a friend that she wants to plan this elaborate bachelorette party for my b/f. They are friends since jr. high. Anyway, that makes me think she must have been asked to be the matron of honor b/c usually the bachelorette party is given by the maid/matron of honor. My b/f has no sisters. Anyway, then I get an email 5 days later from my b/f that she's have 2 girls including the one planning the bachelorette party go try on bridesmaid dresses with her.
Now I am totally confused b/c I have not been asked.
My b/f sent me an email telling me to plan on when the wedding is and the rehearsal. (She's getting married in a year) So, am I to think it's "understood" that I am a bridesmaid since she's telling me all this or what? I would never assume anything, but who does that when you aren't apart of it???
I just really need some help - should I email her back and ask or call her and ask or how should I approach it?? thanks...

Hey there~ I would just call her and ask her about it. Since you guys are B/F's, it shouldn't be a prob and she should understand. I would just jokingly say," So, I am one of your bridesmaids, right? Because you never gave me the official 'go' on it..." And kinda chuckle. When you are planning a wedding and newly engaged, you know how it goes... maybe in the excitement she forgot to ask you and assumed you knew. I hope that this helps! Good luck and let us know how it turns out! It sounds like you are a BM, she just hasn't "asked" yet.

Sometimes with planning you just assume these things. I just automatically thought my bf would know she's moh and my other bf knew she was in the wedding. And I was doing the same thing, and then she said to me, "i'm in the wedding right." And I was like of course silly, so I know I have done that already. But she did just what was said to ask, and I wasn't offended or anything. I actually felt bad then because I never offically asked. Good luck.