Two part post here....

Part One to adress the soon to be sister in law issue- If your soon to be husband asked you to have her in the wedding, if it means that much to the man you love I dont understand the issue. If you can only have two ask him if you can have three if you include her. It will make her feel good, make him feel loved, and make you look good to everyone.

Part Two to address the child with adhd issue - I agree signing the guest book would probably not hold her interest. I would discuss with your fiancee what the issue is with her being a jr bridesmaid....this may open some suprising dialogue on his views on children with and/or without disabilities.

Winter

I am in the exact same boat. My future sister-in-law is not one of my favorite people in the world. She is just not an all around nice person. Early in our relationship, my now finace, told me he would like to have his sister stand up in our wedding. We recently got engaged and he has already told her so will be standing up in the wedding as one of my bridesmaids. I guess my advice is if she means that much to your fiance, why not include her. It has already brought me and my future sister-in-law closer. Just let her know how important this day is to you and your fiance and what type of behavior is expected from the wedding party on that day. Best of Luck!

I also have a reply about the cousin with ADHD. I agree that you should talk to your fiance about why he doesn't want her as a junior bridesmaid. I would also suggest if you do not have her as your junior bridesmaid, find some other tasks she will be able to help you with. Like help with favors, decorate the church, and hand out programs on the day of your wedding.

2ndtimecharm, why don't you inform your FH that this is the 2000s and the new big thing is to have mis-matched wedding attendants (ie: uneven numbers of BMs and GMs OR having opposite sex attendants like bridesmen and groomsmaids) and that if he really wants to have HIS sister stand up for HIM you'd totally support him asking her.

and then insist she has to dress like the boys.

I think you hace to talk to your husband about this. He may have insights that will shed new light to your dilemma, him being the closest person linked to your situation.


Don't be so stressed! Everything will fall into place.


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A second marriage?U mean u got divorced, and then get married again?