My fiance and I are kinda trying to figure this out. His sister (C) is one of my best friends. She actually got us together. I love her like a sister. Heres the problem...I have another best friend (B) that I want to be my maid of honor too. The sister of my fiance thought she was going to be it since we are best friends and her brother will be the groom. My friend B would be the one I would feel more comfortable with giving the brides toast and just making sure everything was ready for the wedding and I would feel alot better about the bridal shower if she was the one throwing it for me. Is it ok to have to maid of honors?? I don't want to hurt her feelings telling her I want B to do it. I really don't know what to do and neither does my fiance. Please help!

How many bridesmaids would you be having other than the possible two maids of honor? If there are at least two or three other girls standing up then yes I would say you could have two maids of honor, I hear a lot of people do that now.
Hope this helps!

Ok I think you should have both of them as your maids of honor. That'll keep confusing down and neither one of them will be mad. I've encounter the same problem. But I have three best friends one which has been my best friend ever since the 2nd grade we're like siters, one has been my best friend for the last five years who has been through everything with me, and last but least my last best friend which I haven't seen in about five years or more but we talk on the regular.The first best friend I mentioned is in school I decided her be in my wedding but to be one of the braidsmaid because she couldn't handle and be there to help me with everything. But the other two I knew will be right there when I need a hand and I need their opinion. To put a long story short pick the one you know will be there help you with everything and will give the best speech about you!!!!!!!!!

We have a similar situation where my FH could not decide between his best friend and his brother for best man. They are going to be co-best men. He spoke to each individually and explained why they were going to share the job.

Let them know that you are torn, and that both have great reasons why they sould be MOH. Then outline what the specific responsabilities for each would be. That way they are each being honored, but for unique reasons.

The thing people so often forget when they're planning a wedding and figuring out maid of honor and bridesmaids and stuff is that years later no one is going to care who was technically the maid of honor. It's fun, it's a wonderful day for everyone, but what is more important is your married life for years to come.

That being said, there's no reason to follow tradition to the letter and risk causing hurt feelings. Make them both maids of honor, regardless of how many other bridesmaids there are (or aren't!). Outline exactly what you'd like each of them to do. If you're more comfortable with one of them giving the speech, ask the other one to help you pick out the bridesmaids dresses. That way everyone gets to feel involved.

My sister had the same situation, with me and one of her other best friends. She ended up choosing both of us, and we split the "maid of honor" duties. One of us toasted at the rehearsal and dinner, and the other made a toast at the reception. One of us held the flowers during her vows while the other made sure her dress was straightened.

If you want to choose both of us, it is definitly ok. I would make a job list for both of them, and tell them that they are sharing the honor because you love both of them equally and want them both to share that with you. After that, tell them that they can divide up the maid of honor duties between themselves. Whatever they feel comfortable with is what they should do. I ended up doing the toast at the rehearsal and dinner because I am not comfortable with public speaking and I knew that the guest list at the rehearsal would be limited to wedding party and spouses only.

I say, if you choose both of them, let them decide which of the duties they want to do based on what they are comfortable doing!
Good luck on your decision, and remember that is your day, and you do whatever makes you happiest!

I see this as your opportunity to have both girls become your MOH and share in the responsibilities that come along with this honored title. It isn't just a position they take in your wedding, there are duties that must be done to assist their bride. It is a priviledge, not a right of "who knows her better" to become the bride's MOH. With the 2 (or I have done 3 at one wedding) this will enable them all to assist you with so many of the tasks you will undertake while planning your special day.
Sit down and discuss these duties with them all and see if they are up to it prior to their acceptance. This will make everyone involved feel comfortable and that they are ideed needed.
Print out this list of duties and responsibilities for them. Take them out to lunch or cook for them at your home while sharing together. Let them know how much this means to you:

Bridesmaid 101 - Maid of Honor Duties

Everything will work to your advantage and your friends will thank you for being so thoughtful!
Jen

These days anything goes - I even had my brother be the "Man of Honor" while my husband had his sister be "The Best Maid". I say go with both. There's nothing worse than an upset bridesmaid and hurt feelings spoiling your big day!

I am having 2 MOH . One is my 12 yr old daughter( she'll be 13 by then ) maiden of honor . The second will be my best friend who will the maid of honor . Obviously my daughter cannot do all the responsibilites that are supposed to be handled by the MOH but I feel as though she should be the one beside me at the alter . I didnt plan on having 2 actually but then my friend started talking about helping me do this or that , and planning a bridal shower etc etc . She has been my main friend to help me and really be involved so if she wants to help and plan all of that I figured I should give her that honor . I think now-a-days whats most important to you works , regardless if its considered " traditional "