My dad offered to help us pay for our wedding. He completely covered the cost of my sister's wedding ( I am not trying to compare here). He gave us $$ toward our deposit. He let me know to let him know when the next payment was due. I called him and let him know our wedding date, being he is my father and he did give money to us. He asked me how much it was going to be. I gave him an estimate. He responds with, "That is more than your sister's was." Which, it isn't by a LONG shot. No joke. So, he tells me that me and DH2B better "start saving your pennies." My question is this: Is he rescinding (sp?) his offer to help by making that comment? By the way, I did let him know that DH2B and I are going to be paying a nice-sized portion of the bill, which is more than my sister did. They didn't pay anything toward their's. Thank you in advance for any advice!

I am actually going through something very similar...it is hard to read people...especialy family members when it comes to money matters because it is such a touchy subject. My advice to you is to sit down with your father and have a honest conversation. ask him why your sister didn't have to save a dime and you do or maybe in a nice way say that you understand his decision...but you need to know exactly how much he is expecting to pay and tell him that prices jump for venues every year so yes your wedding will be a bit more expensive. just keep your cool,be honest and keep the lines of communication open!

PS thank you for your advice! it helped me out a lot!

Hi there! Thank you so much for your advice, too! I am glad that I can help in some way. I appreciate your input on this subject! I will definetly have to reach out to him and clarify things (he's not always easy to talk to tho). I hope all is working out on your end, as well!

I agree! I think by sitting down, setting a budget, and giving him an idea of what you want for your wedding day would be a good idea. This way he knows what he is paying and for you to know what you will have to pay for too! By having an honest and frank conversation this should help you to find a solution! Good Luck to you!

Shawnslady~
Thank you so much for your response! I will have to have that dreaded talk.... Hope your planning is going well!